I love being a stay at home mom, in fact I think I'm very blessed to still be able to make an income while I'm with my little girl every single day. That's the great thing about being able to work in the digital industry - you can create a flexible schedule for yourself + you can work from anywhere you like.
That being said, being a mom still takes up a lot of your time and if you're a new mom the whole process can be very nerve-wrecking at times. Still, I wouldn't change this life-changing experience for anything in the world - now read about the life lessons that I've learned thus far.
1. Nighttime became my friend.
That is if I want to get some work done, like a big chunk of work. Milania recently turned 10 months and except for the feeds of milk she needs during the night she's sleeping really well. Which gives me the time to work undisturbed. You may wonder how I functioned during the day. Well let's just say that after a while you become used to only a few hours of sleep.
2. Preparation is everything.
I don't always mention this but I suffer from anxiety. Over the years however I've learned to manage it very well. Like when I need to have a meeting I'll make sure that my hair is shiny and bouncy, that I'm well dressed and that I spritz on my most expensive perfume. And at the end of each week I'll cook + prepare a batch of pureed baby-food and I'll also pick an outfit for Milania a few days before we have to do a clinic run.
Also when she visits her grandma over the weekend, I'll make sure her little bag is packed with all the medicine, snacks and extra nappies she may need. When I'm prepared for something I feel more in control and that ease the anxiety. I guess that's why I'm also a bit of a control freak. Well, this makes my life sooo much easier.
3. Let it go.
I really envy successful bloggers sometimes that still get time to write fantastic posts, that have great collaborations with brands and that just seems that they are really winning at life. Sometimes I wish I had more time + energy to just do more! But then I realise that my recent journey have been a tough one. In the past 2 years I've not only lost my beloved baby sister, but I've also been retrenched from my full-time job. I've been in a serious car accident and to top all of that I also had to go to the dentist 3 times this year to pull a tooth.
It wasn’t all negative though, I gave birth to the most beautiful girl and I got married! Point is, life happens and it doesn’t always happen the way you want it. But you got to keep going and make the most of the blessings you have and just let the rest go.
4. You can still be fabulous.
I do not know why some people assume you have to look and behave in a shabby looking mess all the time when you've move into the club of motherhood. Sure when I’m just at home with nowhere to go I’ll look like that and sure there are times when I just want to sleep, when I stay in my pj's all day and when I don't feel like brushing my hair. But I've always liked my me-time too and nothing's change about that habit.
That means I still love painting my nails and dressing well. I make sure that I still spoil myself to beautiful lipsticks and glossy magazines and I also plan date nights with my husband, I make an effort to still be fabulous.
5. Just do your best.
Even when you've cleaned and cooked and delivered on all the tasks you had for the day you may sometimes still nitpick on the laundry that you didn’t get to. The report you didn’t send or whatever the hell you forgot throughout your hectic day. Here's what I've learned, do not torture yourself - realise that you still need to take care of it and leave it at that. Just do your best and give yourself a pat on the back for the things you were able to achieve.
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